Thursday, March 27, 2008

After signing the pups up for military school yesterday we grabbed a quick veggie burger (which oddly enough produced a significant amount of phlegm for us both. Yack) and were briskly walking home to end their first two hour confinement in the crate. I was yapping on about something when a door across the street slammed followed by a woman screaming. Turning to look, we see a middle aged dude with a bad mustache come out of the house yelling "fuck you." A wild haired woman returned the compliment. She berated him for bringing it. What was it?
A smelly shirt? Spoiled food?
More fuck yous were exchanged.
Then she realized that it became public and shame forced her to close the door. I always keep an eye out that women are safe when I see lovers quarrel.

Those scenes make my blood run cold.

We have never had an exchange like that.
I can't imagine it.

18 comments:

melanie said...

A couple people have said to me "Don't you and the Mister EVER fight?" It worries me a little about their views on relationships - I mean, we don't agree on anything but we certainly don't fight and we haven't once had a yelling match. I think because of this I am super uncomfortable in situations where couples do fight a lot. My parents had friends over for dinner once and the couple started yelling at each other across the dinner table - after 30+ years of marriage. Sometimes I think I live in a bubble.

fatmammycat said...

Me and the paramour don't fight either. We would NEVER issue a fuck you. Not in a million years. Some people seem to thrive in tempestuous relationships, me, I'd wither up and die, too stressful.

Andraste said...

Oh, I think SPOUSE and I would have split a long time ago if we didn't occasionally have a healthy little row. We've never screamed "Fuck you" at each other, though. Or dragged our business out into the street like that.

We have the pregnant silence, the slow burn, the flare up, then a good laugh, generally. Sometimes, when alcohol is involved, one of us will get a little heated, and the other will mimic a soccer referee pulling a yellow card, and we burst into laughter. Works every time.

Medbh said...

Melanie, people stay together for all sorts of reasons even when they hate each other. I don't get it.

FMC, that thin line between love and hate stuff is a way to get women to comply with the patriarchy and male dominance. Keep them married to assholes who would yell fuck you at them on the street. Horrible.

Andraste, I do the slow burn thing because I don't like yelling at him. Laughter is great for clearing the air.

fatmammycat said...

Actually, we do sarcasm in our house. No fights, but PLENTY of sarcasm.

Medbh said...

Sarcasm takes much more creativity and thought than just lashing out with "fuck you," FMC.

I once went three days without talking to Mr. M while sleeping on the couch.

Nick said...

Usually mindless bickering is our tactic of choice when J and I are pissed off with each other. Then a bit of a sulk and then we kiss and make up. I think we've said fuck you about twice in 27 years. Not bad going.

fatmammycat said...

3 days sleeping on a couch? Balls to that, I'd book myself into a suite in a plush hotel and sulk there-while ordering room service and paying for it with HIS credit card (which I would have stolen before I stormed out of the house)

Medbh said...

Nick, 27 years is nothing to sneeze at, indeed. You and Jenny should be proud of your sane relationship.

FMC, this was when we were living in a rural town in Kansas which had no fancy hotels. I don't think my silent treatment was healthy nor would I recommend it. We don't fight often, thankfully.

John Mc said...

We bicker, but we are both very strong stubborn people, and they tend to be productive, as in whatever was bugging us gets worked out as a result, and we don't simmer. On the other hand we are very open and affectionate with each other.

On a more depressing note, I met an old colleague for lunch yesterday, he was a little late because he was just after dialing 911 because he witnessed a guy in a car beside him, at a stop light repeatedly punching a women beside him. They left the stop sign, as my friend was with 911, and the women hoped out of the car and took off, my friend followed the car, which unfortunately had no plates as it was new, bit the driver did a sudden U-turn and by the time my friend could do likewise and catch up, he was gone and there was no sign of the women. He made his report to the cops, and they called him back for more details but nothing since.

Medbh said...

Your friend's a really good man and citizen, John. Thanks for sharing that. I shudder to think that he cared more about her well-being than the cops did. When you interfere with a man who thinks he has the right to beat the snot out of women, they won't hesitate to extend the violence to you.
Huzzah for his bravery.

laughykate said...

I hate yelling. I don't do it. I go quiet, then I have to discuss cause I just don't deal wtih feeling discombobulated.

I think the last time I yelled was at a taxi driver in Sydney over ten years ago. He was taking me on the scenic route (ie the opposite direction to where I was going) as was very common practice amongst the non local taxi drivers. Pick that your passenger isn't a local and take them the long way. He wore it for all the taxi drivers who had done the same to me for the year.

I was recently told that yelling is a result of fear.

Medbh said...

Shit, LK, I have no problem yelling at strangers if the situation calls for it. I just don't want to engage in that behavior with loved ones.

John Mc said...

Yup he is a good guy. He was kinda beating himself up that he hadn't caught the guy,and I pointed out to him there was nothing he could have done. Calling the cops was the right thing. He also wasn't sure if he should have stopped to help the women when she hoped out, but she disappeared down a little alley he couldn't drive down, and by the time he had pulled over and tried to find her he probably would have lost both, and he wanted to make sure the guy in the car didn't get away, which unfortunately he did anyway.

Actually the Cops were very responsive, they took the report and drove around immediately, and when they couldn't find anyone they called him back and asked him could he submit a full report.

Manuel said...

Funny you should say that......LMM and I can scream at each other and five minutes later be hugged up on the sofa. We can roar and shout but it never ever lasts more than a few minutes....even when we huff it's over inside an hour.


In other news I went back to out favourite restaurant yesterday......it was great. And I've been fine since......didn't have the oysters.....as Paisley would say Oyster Says No! hehehehehe

Medbh said...

John, your friend went above and beyond what most folks would do.
Tell him he should get a badge of honor, if that counts for anything.
Christ, we need more people on the streets like him.

Manuel, you and LMM are a great couple. May you have many years together.
I still want to think that it was a virus rather than food poisoning!
Oh, and fuck Paisley. Hee!

John Mc said...

I am delighted to report, my friend was called into the cop station and identified the thug in a photo line-up and he has been arrested! He apparently was seen again yesterday doing the same thing, and with two witnesses they have case.

Medbh said...

Huzzah, John!
Fucking fabulous news.
I hope you've turned this anecdote into a blog post.
It's so rare that scumfucks like that guy actually get before a judge.
Put him away already.